Last week while working on a project with a coworker crap hit the fan early in the morning so we were relying on the afternoon to give us the results we needed. She was slightly freaking out while I remained “unbothered”, fast forward to the afternoon things WORKED OUT so much so better than we imagined. As the fire was dying she asked me “you weren’t worried at all were you?” I said “No.” she went on to ask “how do you do that? you’re never worried over anything”

This conversation with someone who has known me just a little over 2 years made me think about my past and how it hasn’t always been so peachy and positive. It took a lot to become the person I am today and currently requires a lot to maintain but it has gotten easier to shift from a negative space into a positive space. This revelation that I had while speaking to my colleague made me want to share how I overcame and how I now handle negativity.

Honestly it took for my loving boyfriend Joe to have a real moment of honesty with me, he legit told me I was negative. Imagine the sound of my heart crushing to hear something so real and brutal about myself from someone I loved and who I knew loved me!!! This news was dropped on me at the right time cause I was OPEN to receive this information and was WILLING to do the work to change. If I came off negative to my boyfriend how did I appear to strangers?? The negativity that I was putting out in the world was essentially harming me, negativity is definitely a form of self harm especially if you are spiritual. I was not a mean person I just literally would not believe that any good was coming out of a rough situation. If something would go awry I would break down and be woe is me about it and never speak a positive word about the situation. Since this was brought to me from someone I love and love me IT HAD TO CHANGE IMMEDIATELY!!

It has not been an easy journey but it has been an amazing journey the way my life has changed is phenomenal. I am way more joyful, I expect great things to happen to me, rough situations come of course cause life but I get through them with a smile.

Some things that has helped me escape from my negative mindset has been:

• Saying positive affirmations- Pinterest is my favorite place to find different affirmations tailored to whatever I need in my life at that time. You can also create your own!!

• Praying- I became closer to God while on this journey. Whatever or whoever you believe in my suggestion is to dive deeper into it.

• Yoga- Hot yoga is my all time favorite hobby it just helps me release all negative feels I just leave it on the mat.

• Believe in yourself- Know that you deserve all the great things that are out there for you.

• Trust- Trust that it is all going to work out.

• Don’t rush the process- start small, no one can completely change over night- know that it takes work. Start by saying “Its going to work out” “ What is meant for me will not miss me” etc anything that you need- just keep it simple.

• Partnership- Get someone that you trust and value on your team. Ask them to keep you in check and when you’re slipping they can help you back up.

Remember how amazing you are, don’t be hard on yourself and just keep living to change another day! BYE BYE NEGATIVITY!!

If you have any other helpful tips or want to share your journey feel free to comment below!